Hooking up is not making love. I feel that it’s carrying love to the most basic level of the animal. There is no love, no feeling, only a need to please or be held. Universities are loaded with men and woman who play the hooking game to the detriment of their dignity, respect of oneself and one’s sacred temple, the body. There is also loss of self-esteem because both men and women lose all shame and will do anything. Men hook up because they are simply practicing. They don’t love the women. They don’t even need them or want them. Most end up marrying someone else. They see a girl who looks good, and maybe doesn’t even look that good but she’s ready to give it for free, and he’s ready to play the sex game. Sadly enough, he doesn’t think that his sperm is a sacred part of his body, that it’s the carrier of his family history: where he comes from, his gene pool. Their babies (sperms) are born in terrible conditions to mothers they wouldn’t think of marrying, much less starting a family with. These babies are born to terrible conditions because they are not wanted. Some woman played the sex game and got caught. The baby resulting from hooking up or doing a one night stand is simply an inconvenience. Some of those babies (sperms) suffer the atrocities of being painfully aborted. All of this is done because this male has no self-respect, no dignity, no thought or respect for his family line and no shame at using his body like a bull at stud. With women, it’s a little more complicated. I feel women want to be held, feelings that come from an upbringing lacking close relations with parents, such as a woman who grew up without a father. These women are looking for love. They want to be loved. I feel many go to the male looking for a father figure to hold them. They give their bodies freely, and many do not even experience completion. They just want to be held. Some believe this is the way to get married. Some think that they seem more sophisticated if they give the impression of being sex experienced. Others are simply promiscuous. But the fact is that all of these people that hooked up have lowered humanity back to the time of the caves or, perhaps, further back. After thousands of years to get civilized, to get where we are in a civilized world where people count, they have lowered us back to the cave period where a caveman simply took the female he wanted and mated with her. There was not necessarily a love relationship. There seemed to be no rules. If there were, they were still quite uncivilized, grab the girl by the hair and drag her to your cave type thing. Some time along the way, marriage came about to make couples responsible for their offspring. Little by little, humans seemed to change. Even studying different primitive tribes all over the world, rules of conduct began to appear as to how males would act with females they wanted to marry. They had rules about how the male went about getting a girl. I remember reading about a pigmy tribe in which the male made arrangements with the female’s family that he was going to marry her. Then he took the female that he wanted to marry home, but the male couldn’t have sex with her until she cooked a meal for him. And only then after she cooked that meal was he allowed to have sex with her. And that was a pretty primitive tribe, but they had honor in their dealings with females they wanted to marry. Then in the earlier centuries up to the middle of the 20th century, the couples went through a courtship period. They got to know each other before the male approached the girl’s family to ask for her hand in marriage. That courtship helped the couple to bond and romance to grow into serious love. Check out the movie “The Quiet Man” with John Wayne. It’s a classic about a proper relationship between a man and a woman who wanted to get married. Today, unfortunately, it seems that a large number of young people have lost all honor. They drink themselves to oblivion and having sex indiscriminately with anybody who wants to try them out. There is no love in those relationships, no respect, no real fulfillment. After the ‘hook ups’ or one night stand, there is no bonding, no opportunity to get to know each other’s good qualities. There is not love and nowhere to go with that relationship for that night. I wonder what it’s like to wake up with that girl the following morning. It can’t be fun. There is certainly no commitment. They don’t know what romance is all about and would even laugh at it. But there is such a thing as love. There is only one kind of love that leaves one totally fulfilled, and that is making love with someone who has taken the time to know the man or woman, someone who treats women as very special people, someone who looks out for a woman when she’s in her most vulnerable moment in the act of love and sees that she experiences sexual fulfillment to its fullest. Women who hook up learn and become pawns to men on the prowl for sex, and they don’t get respect, much less marriage. They fail to ever experience love at its richest moment because they to love.
